In 20 years, I’ve not succeeded at explaining to my parents what I do—or why.

They’ve shown periodic interest in my various endeavors, and I’ve periodically tried to enthuse them with what I hoped were vivid and accessible verbal excursions into HR technology, product management, and the psychology of leadership. But it never takes more than a minute or two for their eyes to go into a blank stare, and for my voice to taper off until the discussion culminates in yet another tacit, embarrassed, abrupt change of subject. 

Nor have they found it easy to grasp, although they’ve mostly expressed a mix of tentative support and quiet resignation about my repeated forays into new roles, industries, careers, countries, and sometimes continents every few years. That’s hardly surprising given that they’ve both lived most of their lives in the same towns, working in the same careers throughout their lives, changing jobs only if they had to, and no more than a couple of times each in over 40 years. Also, most of the fields I’m excited about didn’t even exist when I was in high school, at least not in our part of the world. Many still aren’t taught at universities. 

Some of my friends’ pre-teen kids feel the same way about me. In no uncertain terms, though often with a cheeky grin and a sparkle in their eyes, they berate me for driving a diesel or not having social media profiles, incredulous that a friend of their parents could be so uncool.

Even if you’re better at explaining what you do, or are way cooler than I am, I’d venture to guess you’ve had some similar experiences. In many ways, we really do inhabit different worlds than the generations before and after us, and many of these differences do spill over into the world of work.

That may well be one reason why the popular idea that different generations want different things at work has had such enduring, intuitive appeal. From “OK boomer” through “avocado-loving, entitled millennials” to “sensitive, job-hopping Gen-Zs,” stereotypes galore are broadcast into the world in viral videos or eye-catching infographics that capture these generations’ purported traits and values in funny memes or a few bullet points, eliciting thousands of likes, comments and shares because they describe an experience that we all can relate to.

When it comes to our motivational needs, values, and preferences, what we want is distributed along a continuum rather than in discrete categories. In other words, it makes little sense to say that some people want, say, Autonomy (or Security, Feedback, etc.) while others don’t. That would be like saying some people have height while others don’t.

What we can say is that:

We all need some level of Autonomy (or Security, Feedback, etc.)

Many people share overlapping needs, with different priorities

Some people value a given motivator more or less strongly than others.

Overlapping distributions can still have different group averages. To understand whether that is happening here, we need to inspect the observed comparisons and their limits, rather than assume a bell curve settles the question.