It can be intimidating to look at a topic as big as gender parity and believe that your actions will have an impact. The headline of a previous McKinsey report on Women in the Workplace reminds us that “women fall behind early and continue to lose ground with every step.” Oof. It’s a heavy reality to confront, and while systemic improvements are extremely important, so too are the actions that each one of us takes in our day-to-day work. 

An important step is to acknowledge that all of us, regardless of gender, make assumptions throughout the day that uphold the status quo. Psychologically speaking, assumptions are useful in helping us process information, but they’re limited by our perceptions and vulnerable to any number of cognitive biases. So rather than accept your educated guesses as fact, wouldn’t it be better to take a moment to ask yourself: am I sure if that’s really true?

This bite-sized bit of analysis is a great way to put the theme of this year’s International Women’s Day—#ChooseToChallenge—into practice. Taking a moment to ask some additional questions will help you to challenge your assumptions about the motivation, values and needs of your colleagues, and in doing so open your mind up to a world of possibilities that you may never have considered before. If we want to do better for women at work, we need to remain open and curious. And when we ask better questions—and listen to the answers—we empower ourselves to act more equitably.

A lot has been written about the impact that stereotypes and gender bias can have in the workplace—from the words we use to describe job applicants to how we rate performance—but since this is the Attuned blog, let’s focus on assumptions about intrinsic motivation.