The Attuned Writer Fellowship: ‘Why Would Anyone’ is live!

When our four-year-old asks, again and again: 

“Do you like my drawing, maman? Is it beautiful?” 

I feel sad and a bit peeved to hear him seeking my approval instead of the pure delight of creation.

At other times, I watch him in the zone: engrossed in jigsaw puzzles, entranced in the newfound pleasure of swimming, making up songs when nobody listens. Those moments rub off on me, and I am a tad envious.

When’s the last time I did delicious things just for the heck of it?

I admire people who move towards personal goals with joy, ease and integrity. Me, I’ve generally inched through life eager to please. Please my parents, please my teachers (preschool, primary, secondary, lecturers, driving instructors… ALL the teachers!), please my BFFs, my flatmates, in-laws, employers, neighbours; you get the picture. I get straight As in understanding what other people expect of me and playing by their rules.

It works insofar as I get good marks, pleasant relationships, and enjoyable experiences. And yet. Every now and then, I wonder: how did I get here? How did you? Where to now?

I’ll be dedicating the next 12 months, and hopefully beyond, to finding out.

As a mother, I want to protect my kids’ self-directed spirit, and try to get out of their way so they can follow their joy and curiosity. But I have neglected my own need for play and exploration. How can I provide for them what I’m not providing for myself? 

I guess it’s easier to talk to children about important values and behaviours than to actually live out and model those values and behaviours to them. 

Through this newsletter, I want to understand and access Intrinsic Motivation and try to relocate it firmly inside of me. I want to explore how it shows up in all areas of our lives: from parenting to freelancing, through to learning languages or rock climbing. 

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Since 2010, I’ve made a living as a science and policy journalist for serious publications such as Science magazine and SciDev.Net, peering through peer-reviewed research and jargon-rich reports galore. So expect some geeking out.

I plan on talking to people who study and embody (and maybe try to engineer) Intrinsic Motivation: artists, athletes, children, economists, neuroscientists, policy analysts, psychologists.